Why It’s Good to Parent Someone Who’s Not Like You

Why It’s Good to Parent Someone Who’s Not Like You

In this post from Scary Mommy, an anonymous writer lists “The 10 Best Things About Having All Boys.”

She mentions it’s a healthy challenge to raise someone different than you. To try to relate. To understand where they’re coming from. Having boys gets you out of your comfort zone, and out of your head, to embrace a more physical, tactile approach to the world. And notice things you normally wouldn’t. Like the shape of the rocks near the shoreline. Or the number of red pick-up trucks you pass on a drive up the Turnpike.

Boys are mischievous and spirited. Curious and carefree. They are energy and wonder and play. They need to move and do instead of just be. They will not sit still and just talk. Or listen. But boy do they know how to live life out loud. They’re good for us!

Here’s #4 on her list:

Even if they’re all the same sex, they’re NOT all the same.

Parenting three children of the same gender has given me an even greater appreciation for how distinct their little personalities are. They may all be boys, but they are three totally different people. My oldest is fierce, complicated, creative, intense. He doesn’t like hugs. But he needs companionship and approval. My middle is sensitive, shy, and sweet. He snuggles endlessly. But he’s also independent and stoic. They’re night and day. Fire and ice. The baby? Too soon to tell. Their differences surprise and delight me daily. They help me resist assumptions and generalizations—this article notwithstanding.

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